Ways To Support A Friend Or Family Member Going Through Infertility

Supporting through infertility

I have been really blessed to have great friends that have really helped me. They are like my earthly angels. I know it can be hard to know how to love and support someone that is struggling with infertility and pregnancy loss. Here are some ideas to help support those around you.

  1. Be a really good listener.
  2. Appropriate things to say:
    1. "I'm sorry."
    2. "I am always here if you need to talk."
    3. "What do you need?" or "What can I help you with?"
  3. After asking what they need, follow through! Here are some ways to help:
    1. Bring flowers or a thoughtful gift.
    2. Offer to watch their older kids so they can rest.
    3. Go to difficult doctors appointments with them.
    4. Offer opportunities to get them out of the house. 
  4. Bring lunch or dinner meals.
  5. Allow them to talk, cry, or vent when they need and validate their feelings.
  6. Be patient.
  7. Support their decisions to either continue treatment or stop.
  8. Keep checking in as weeks and months go by and let them know you care.